About Marriage

March 1992

     In  a  marriage there are two factors  of  importance. The  first  is mutual love and mutual respect. Without  this  a  marriage becomes a mere social institution and many problems  can  and  do  develop. The  second  factor  of  importance  is  the  willingness  of both parties to advance together through  thick  and  thin. Without this commitment, when the way becomes a bit rough, all is lost. So both of these factors are necessary for a successful marriage.  If  mutual  love and respect are not present there  may  be excess  conflict, anger, and disappointment. For whatever the reason, if  this  ingredient is missing marriage will not be successful.  It  may  continue  if  commitment  is  there,  but  it  will  not  be  successful. If these are present in the beginning but  due to  difficulty they are lost, then success goes down.

     As for my system, it is based on these two factors. If love and  respect  cannot  be felt, system cannot be followed. Marriage  becomes intolerable due to emotional reaction. Dissolving  a  marriage is a great loss for both persons. It should not be done without significant forethought and good cause.